Why Do We Have Sex: Forwarded Post from NakedWithChanel

Happy belated birthday to me, Evan Makeba (podcast episode coming soon)!



As an birthday present, I would like sex. Wouldn't we all? Just generally like to have sex?

When said like that it seems like such a simple question. However an aspie I have to realize that not everyone thinks like myself. Some people are into the whole boy meets girl, they fall in love, have sex, get married, have baby and have less sex. That's cool.

However they are MILLIONS of other reasons why we have sex. My personal favourites are: Exercise, fun and making me and my partner (AKA right hand, left hand or sex toy) feel great about ourselves.



In an whirlwind TWO MINUTE video former(?) porn star now sex educator Chanel Preston goes through an number of reasons why we like doing the old 'in-out, in-out' as Alex from Clockwork Orange would call it.



If you like what you saw I strongly recommend you guys check her out at her sex-ed blog, here.

The Effects Of An Autistic Public Outburst

Been awhile since I've posted on here because I've been REALLY poorly. So much so I barely go out anymore.

The reason why mostly is because on Thanksgiving of last year I had an public outburst causing under a grand worth of damage and I got arrested for it.
I've been so ashamed I haven't dared leave my flat.
So in order to fight against my anxiety and loneliness I've been focusing my work on my performing art website and working on it's podcast.

I still believe in the Black/Aspie Sheep Brigade message but right now, I'm a mess.

So I thought I would post the first episode on here explaining the struggles I've been dealing with since the incident.
Hope to post something on here soon.

The Fear Of Cat Calling Or Just Talking To Women On The Street For Aspie Men

ORCHESTRAL SUITE No. 3 in D minor.
Most people know an different arrangement used in the Hamlet cigar adverts. For me it reminds me of an character's brutal death in battle royale. It's so easy to tell the difference between right and wrong. To judge from afar. But sometimes when the chips are down, you've been on a nice winning streak and then disaster happens, most people 'don't want to be a loser anymore'. Sometimes it's better to burn out then to fade away. Some people deserve some time in the sun. Because similar people or even close friends don't get that chance. I love being an aspie. Everything is slowly making sense to me.
Even in the darkest days of self harm and suicidal thoughts... I'm learning about myself everyday and trying to organize myself and get the help needed to do some of the things that I can't or struggle to. Some aspies, you think they are lucky being blessed with wealth like Elliot Rodger but that doesn't change the fact he was extremely angry and frustrated so he went on a killing spree. Did he also kill himself?
Marcus Jannes did.
The 21 year old aspie from Norway hung himself live on webcam. Why? Struggled with social skills. Extremely lonely. I thought about giving you more names linked with aspergers syndrome, low social skills and harm themselves and yes on rare occasions other people but it's normally the self harm, poor socialising and an often mixed bag good and bad social traits. For example:

pro - I can be obsessive and passionate about things I like and enjoy, picking random facts out of the air I have practically remembered all my life.

Con - poor organizational skills. This includes time management and random tasks.

And of course, my social skills. Admittedly I'm not as bad as some aspies but I can make groups of people feel uncomfortable and I'm extremely bad with cues in conversations. I remember almost being banned from a group's events because I was that hardcore. I made a decision after that to all but stop going to those events. I feel embarrassed to show my true colours and also I HATE being censored. I just wish some people would know the differences between my jokes and my actual facts. This makes meeting new girls hard enough job as it is but there's an double edged sword with '10 hours being a woman in NYC' trending online.
I keep getting flash backs to clips of pick up artists uploading videos of sexual assault and harassment. But I know there also exists videos of mixed groups of people casually chatting, nicely. Friendly. Why don't these videos ever trend? My fear is this: we are living in a world full of strangers and enemies.

I remember an car advertistment featuring a somewhat food chain of traffic and travel: the pedestrian hates the cyclist, the cyclist hates the car drivers and I think if I remember it right EVERYONE hates the truck/lorries. See what I meant about random facts. I'm concerned more education is needed NOW. To understand where people are coming from. Monogamous dislike polyamorous. Polyamorous hate swingers. Swingers (seem to) dislike transgender/gender community. But I'm getting of topic.

I have seen a number of newspapers articles about Twitter wars of the sexes. Lesbians arguing with transgender off the top of my head but one between cis men and a woman made me itch my head. The woman in the 10 hours NYC actually enjoys being cat whistled? I think it's called that. Some women enjoy the attention and so they should. I appreciate a beautiful woman as much as anyone. But I'm terrified about coming across as creepy if I tell them that or similar. I'm very confident and I have certain tastes: women left alone for a bit in a bar/club is like parking a sports car in a ghetto. Sometimes they can get stolen. Often. Or the fear of it. But I didn't proper read the twitter war between the man at the butchers and the food blogger who took offensive being told she 'sounds sexy' on the phone. I guess it's all about content. But that might be the problem. It's not the phrases themselves but the TIMING of those phrases. Sometimes. Which brings me back to my original issue.

I can only pray I make it Crystal clear to the women I speak to the difference between me being nice, me badly flirting or me poking fun with my female friends. I just hope I'm original when chatting online.

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Keyboard Sexist Warriors Vs White Knights: Why being a dick and being as Aspie Man are NOT mutually exclusive

Right off the bat? Happy birthday, Ruby.

It's been a tough time for the love I have for my daughter and I.
Due to 'relationship matters' with adults we haven't been able to hang out as much as I would like.
I would love for us to hang out with family and friends for weekend but it hasn't been possible. Mostly grown ups are to blame. Grown ups fucking suck. But on the flip side my hatred for teenage boys could reach fever pitch at any moment. Then again over the top holier than thou feminists could tempt me to start owning cats.
It's been a funny day going into my daughter's birthday. Family had a huge get together so I mainly hid in my room listening to mental health happy hour (a podcast I highly recommend) and exploring the Guys We Fucked podcast. Guys, This week I did my first ever podcast for my personal blog and I'm hoping it's not long until I do a podcast for this site. So for me the way to learn what I like and can do for others in a podcast depends on what podcasts I listen to and what you guys need in a podcast. The one thing I love about Happy Hour and so far GWF podcast is a similar sense of humour. A reason why I watch, subscribe and bum the fuck out of Watch Girls Play.

One: Humour and cussing. I think they mostly have similar humour and some beliefs that I do.

Two: I find them all attractive. Because I'm vain and visit all women family members, sister, mum, daughter. There are very few men in my life and I doubt I would accept them. Because most men are cunts. These are facts.

Three quickly is playing the games I don't have the balls to play but I need to go back a step. It's the reason why I'm writing this pitch dark at 5 in the morning.

Mankind, I am fucking ANGRY at you.

Listening to GWF and previous posts on here about war of the sexes it's easy to understand why there is such a thing as this war however neither side does anything to calm down the war and tonight... Well that was a super example. I just spend 20 minutes before bed watching properly twitch player Kaceytron and I was horrified at the abuse she was getting in game and in chat.
Now I'm not the type of twitch-er which watching hours on end. I'll watch here and there mainly female streamers. But from what I understand mods are in place, the chat is mostly respectful and friendly. So I'm not sure if this was Troll Thursday or mods were on a coffee break but someone clearly pissed off someone and I started watching slap bang in the middle of a steam voice chat fight. Let's say chat fight in future as it reminds me of cat fight and kind of continues the female linked theme of this post.

As I continue to tell you guys, banter I'm all for. I'm hoping even Happy Hour can back me up on this. Some mother fuckers in the world are too coddamn sensitive. They need Jesus. But the abuse and name calling I heard, maybe it's the father or the literal (only) about the man or even the I love most female non monogamous pervert in me just saw this abuse and it made my blood BOIL. I heard something about sexual acts: listen to me. E-fucking-nough with this men do it, they are awesome women do it they are sluts shit. For real. I'm cunting sick of it. Then again I feel this post should be the random yet fitting end to the Sexes War Trilogy which has hurt my brain for so long. The first two, yes. I'm aspie. I'm awkward and I have no idea how to talk to women. I have to play the Rocky soundtrack to go out and buy milk. I am fucking lonely. But this one? Yes. Of course I'd like to get into a lady's pants as well as her arms as a future result of this post but:

NO WOMEN SHOULS HAVE TO BE ASHAMED OF THEIR SEXUALITY OR FEELINGS ABOUT SEX. WHETHER IT'S MONOGAMOUS, NON, NONE OR OTHER.

EVER.

In fact no one should full stop.
I keep thinking of the time I when to a school in a working class town and I was walking with some male friends. Ahead of us was a lesbian school girl (which is a hot phrase I never thought I would type in a serious context) and my mates took it upon themselves to start throwing insults at this girl. I remember saying that everyone should be free to do and choose their own path in life or words to that effect. The girl turned around after I said this. I thought she was going to punch me but she actually offered me a chewing gum. We've been friends for over 20 years now. Actually she is now a he. But I will still support them. Always. Unless he starts supporting Manchester United. Only cunts support Manchester United. Trust me. I'm an arsenal fan.

And I'm pretty sure only cunts would throw sex based insults at women on the internet. Mainly teen aged boys. I don't believe there is any point of throwing insults at girl gamers. As men surely that's one of the things we look for in the ideal life/long term partner. Similar interests. Now I'm not saying Watch Girls Play, Kaceytron, Ssniperwolf shall be in my bedroom naked already beginning the orge because they couldn't wait for my cock but showing those women respect not just for gaming and being pretty female gamers but are they not human beings? I would love to know how many of these abusive men would be abusive in real life?

For my daughter's and my knuckles sake not many and less that she knows them and lesser that I see them. She is getting to an age where she is starting to learn about sex, boys and how it all 'works'. Gross.
But I don't want her to be let down by men. Like I let down her mum when I was young and stupid. Granted it wasn't anything life changing but I hurt her. And I'm sorry. Any men who tells a woman he will never hurt doesn't grasp the concept of time and clearly isn't breathing. We are imperfect humans. Of course we make mistakes. Only the brave ones apologies for those mistakes.

So if you are thinking I'm going to say sorry for those online male abusive behaviours, I'm not. What would be the point? Most trolls are teen boys. They are still get to become men. I just hope some of them grow up to say sorry and apology.
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Being Aspie and Exploring Your Sexuality Publicly: Doing It For Slut Support Reasons

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You know what's the toughest thing about being an artist?
Possessing a light bulb moment when your interests in work ironically makes you seriously horny.

So for the past few weeks I've been questioning sex, gender and my own struggles being an Aspie. Thus, this has all gone into a huge mental blender and may explain why I'm going to post a picture of my... *ahem* Excitement. This feels like a trilogy of posts about this issue. This being the second and cat calling being the inaugural. But after this post, it's going to be hard to do an encore... No pun. 

It's no secret that I imagine the internet hates everyone. Including itself. The double edged sword called 'Freedom of speech' means we are allowed to be vocal about things we love and of course dislike however to call for something to cease... Isn't that censorship?

So... I'm going to post a picture of my ejaculation. And for once it's not about being an artist and upsetting people. It's because I'm fed up of being told to be myself by society and then censored. In fact I'm betting the picture gets pulled. I actually hope it doesn't. I hope whoever gets upset by the picture at least reads this blog post, supports those mentioned posts.

On a personal note I can't stress how confusing and alien the internet can make a person. As mentioned before being someone who struggles with social skills is bad enough but God help you if you add sexuality into the mix.
On some many different angles I have NO idea why the internet is upset about Kim Kardashian's arse. Nor do I care. I'm simply mentioning her to mention people who actually do things for a living.
Am I right in thinking this woman is famous for ONLY being attractive and rich? Really? K.
I really do have an issue (I guess it's not really her fault but the society we live in where you can be loved for doing fuck all or being stupid or both) people saying 'yay team Kardashian! She's got a massive arse and it's sexy' yet when a big beautiful confident woman is in the public spot light like reality TV personality Gemma Collins goes onto another reality show she becomes Jewish and the internet becomes Aryans.

http://www.aceshowbiz.com/images/wennpic/gemma-collins-uk-premiere-katy-perry-part-of-me-01.jpg

Apparently Gemma had a number of offensive tweets about her weight and short appearance in I'm a celebrity get me out of here. The irony of the show being called that to me is another story but considering this is the same internet who mostly was in uproar about cat calling in New York City really cannot have it both ways.
What I want to get across generally in this blog is I can be playful and have fun at you providing you do the same with me. As we try to find the difference between banter and being an offensive arguing knob head.
But when we cannot support women and their right to be themselves... And then say all men are frightening when they cat call confuses the shit out of me.

Understand: feminist beliefs are not the same. Like mental illness isn't the same. Like being an Aspie isn't. Nor is cat calling. 

When porn star James Deen posted what stand up comic and writer Jenn Tisdale called an 'open cat call to the internet' it seemed a large amount of women couldn't fap their tits at the Jew fast enough.

See there's my humour again. James openly jokes about being Jewish and women equal boobs. See the difference between trying to be funny and actually being a CUNT?

With that being said about Deen's cat call it was Tisdale who answered and the two made a video. A porn video.
Which I've seen.
Which brings us to this. Click to be grossed out by spunk. http://imgur.com/egBcRSe

Now it's cigarettes, phone numbers and taxi time... One question still remains. Despite having answered it at the beginning... Why?

Well the spunk is support for an fellow artist and kinda like applauding the work she and the porn star did. Also Jenn herself says she'd like to use the experience with Deen to open up new angles in her work as a writer and as a stand up.
I think people don't realize how much you show to the world as an artist. So there's that.

And then there's the goddamn fucking internet trolls.

Now I would be a hypocrite to say "shut your fucking mouths" and "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" but a; I would be censoring and denying the freedom of speech I love so much and b; as an performing artist I understand some people constructive criticize which in itself could be seen as helpful or hurtful or both.
But maybe it's the weird feminist in me that is outraged by comments by trolls such as 'her voice (pre-sex and during) is annoying', 'she was in a relationship! What a slut' she was in a open relationship so to me not only is this an attempt to slut shame but also unaware some people enjoy non monogamy. Get over it.
They insult her body, Deen's choice, the scene itself. Blah blah blah.

Lately I've thought of the internet as a war of the sexes. That in itself could feel alienating to those who don't class themselves a gender. So now I think the internet is at a war against itself about almost everything. I dare you to find a thing online which is split by an percentage of people who love it and people who hate it. Why do you think pro One Direction fans clash with everyone outside if their fandom in mainstream culture? I fail to understand if people don't like something why they try to recruit others to follow suit.
The video Deen and Tisdale create doesn't feel like a porno. Which is great because personally I feel some of the porn is artificial in it's creation. I think Tisdale mentions there has to be something other than sex within the video to make it arousing to me. When looking for partners I need that emotional as well as physical attraction. As an Aspie I need to be forgiven more for my fuck ups and to be able to be myself.
My last sub used to come over and I'd put on YouTube videos of wrestling, mma or shit films on silent and random spotify music. The only difference between when she wasn't here and her being here is I'd have no one to cuddle, tease and grope their tits.

I don't have a favourite porn star anymore (I used to like girls like Sophie Dee, Bailey Jay and Ashley Blue but Dee seems like a gimmick with her accent, Bailey's work is hard to get a hold of and Blue has retired but I'm gonna get her book soon). And for the industry that's a shame as I'm one of these people who needs to feel the need to pay for a product I will always enjoy.
Basically I'm telling you I'm one of these scum bags who doesn't like paying for porn.
I find either the idea for the video is great but the chemistry I don't like or the girl is attractive but there's no chemistry. I feel Tisdale has similar beliefs. No one likes paying for something they are disappointed with.

I think it's important to be brave and to praise those who have the strength to do so rather than pull up what I believe to be 'cards'. J- law's The fappening event? 'bad role model' card. For a moment let's forget she and a number of female celebs were hacked. What if she wanted to share with the one she loves her body? Btw I love how a model (who's name I've ironically forgot) that actually shows off her own pictures gets ignored. Miley Cyrus being outrageous and sexual? 'The children' card. Similar to the role model card where if the internet cannot win an argument cleanly, uses the idea that some parents are lazy and cannot police their children not to view the more sexual outlandish shit Miley does.

Ultimately what Jenn, James and I hope my spunk teaches is simple. As humans we should have the right to be exhibitionists in the right time and places online. I want to live in a world where if I want to post pictures of myself and my partners naked and or in sexual positions, we will be praised arose others and maybe encourage other adults to follow suite and share without fear of losing our jobs. The fact people can lose their jobs and or support for a political stance is fucking ridiculous and dated.If you work high up in child education or government and feel sex and kinky people are a danger to your organization, I feel sorry for you. I really do. A person and their sexual preferences should never compromise life outside of the bedroom.

Or living room.
Or shower.
Bath.
Hotel room.
Car park...

It's A War Of The Sexes, never get it blud!

My daughter is nearly 11.

I'm pretty sure she is already aware of the concept of war. The first lines of that song mentions Mike having a child and it asking him what war is. Well weapon!

Since my outpouring of emotions of sexual, social and mental frustration in a post earlier this month I've decided within my aspie mind that everyone in the world hates everyone.

So to 'celebrate' this let's at each side of the coin covered by posts on this blog.
First a friend of mine. An feminist. Yes I am friends with feminists because they realise my token black guy routine in youtube videos is just that. A routine. If course calling everyone either a 'nigga', 'bitch' or 'faggot' doesn't mean I'm a member of Combat 18. It just means I listen to a lot of hip hop music and know street terms, where words have multiple reasons and can be used as nouns or objectives. In the post we discuss the pressures of being a beautiful woman in the eyes of society. Being in constant pain to shaving and of course, cat calling.I have no idea why it's called that. Pussy? Post related. Possibly.

The hairy feminist.

The next blog is myself, the creative director of this place having a good old fashioned rant about my fellow man.
There's a blog out there which seems to date back women's rights a good 40 years for the 'good' of masculine ones. I like mentioning I spent a large number of years being from a single parent family do I am very in favour of feminist rights, however I am curious about being the alpha male who dominates other men, own everything he touches and provides knowledge and things to my family but some of those rules in that blog are fucking ridiculous.
The fact of some less cunty men like myself very counted with the cunty douchbaggy boys in the same basket really pisses me off.
Understand, this rage doesn't come from being a man wanting to get laid due to his curiosity of female rights.
It comes from the days where my mum tried to play my mum and my dad with my upbringing. Fighting and hustling even to this day for everything she beliefs in. I think that's why our fights is something of a verbal Dragon Ball Z of destruction.

 We give a shit in what we believe in. Even if sometimes I get confused thanks to my aspergers or and I'm triggered and decide to head butt the carpet until my head is busted open.
And yes that did happen once, to my embarrassment.
So... Here's the post about that blog. Forgotten the name of the blog.

So what are your thoughts on the seemingly most opinionated of issues of late?
You pro or do you rebuke cat calling? Are you red blooded in your manliness or are you an metro-male?


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